Viktor Frankl on Love, Hope and Happiness
It’s been a month ago since I’ve finished reading Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl . The time was still vivid to me; it’s when I am struggling to secure my job. It’s when my company threatens to terminate me due to my poor performance.
That is when I thought I am alone, fighting for my job security and I am too afraid knowing that I have children to feed and bills to pay. I can feel the sense of injustice during that time and the extreme unfairness that is so common in call center industries.
I honestly learn a lot from the book most especially on how to deal with suffering (but much had been written about that, right?) It teaches me to be tough, to leave everything in fate, to keep going knowing that even if I got terminated (I know it won’t kill me) I can start all over again. Whoa! I believed in myself even more since I read the book because my suffering cannot be compared to Viktor Frankl’s suffering.
However, in this post, I don’t want to focus on it anymore.
I want to cling on the positive side of the book which will inspire us all.
Let us take Viktor words about love.
A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth —that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love. I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved. In a position of utter desolation, when man cannot express himself in positive action, when his only achievement may consist in enduring his sufferings in the right way—an honorable way— in such a position man can, through loving contemplation of the image he carries of his beloved, achieve fulfillment. For the first time in my life I was able to understand the meaning of the words, “The angels are lost in perpetual contemplation of an infinite glory.”
We’ve seen it on movies; we experienced it in real life that having someone to love (our deepest human need) can help us survive even the toughest times. We found meaning in our loved ones—family, friends, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, son, daughter. Without them, life can be futile and it is far easier to give-up hope.